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Friday, November 8, 2013

How Reading Aloud Promotes Success



How Reading Aloud Promotes Success
School aged kids spend eight times as much time out of school as they do in school. That time out of school equals 7,200 hours a year! I am sure you have heard the phrase that parents are children’s first teachers. This is particularly true during the first few years of our children’s lives before they enter school. We provide learning experiences and promote our child’s healthy development in small and big ways each and every day. However, even after our children enter school, parents are an integral piece of the puzzle. Deciding what school to send our children, assisting with homework, advocating for their specific learning needs and providing supplemental learning experiences are just some of the ways that we promote learning, discovery and engagement.

I wholeheartedly believe that our most important role when it comes to our child’s education is instilling a love of learning and reading in our children. There are certainly other pieces to reading and school success but if a child has a curiosity about the world, a desire to read and a love of books, the rest will follow much more easily. A recent study discovered that a dismal 48% percent of 8 year olds don’t read at a proficient level! The good news is that a review of 10,000 research projects found that the single most important activity required for eventual success in reading is reading aloud to your children. As an extra bonus one of the greatest things we can do as a parent is have a strong connection with our children and the time we spend together reading builds this positive bond!
Below are a few tips for how to make this time together effective and fun!

Tips for Reading with Your Children
Read before bedtime.
Reading as part of your bedtime routine allows you to spend time with your child without all of the distractions of the day.

Show your children that you enjoy books and reading.
Read in front of your kids, find things in the books you are reading to talk about with your kids, let your kids know that you are in a book club or what your favorite books were when you were their age.

Find books that are appropriate for your child’s age and don’t forget to keep up with their growing levels of comprehension.
Your local librarians (or friends) are a great resource. Tell them what kinds of books your kids love and they can steer you in the direction of dozens more similar books. Try non-fiction books about the subjects they are interested in. If you find an author your child loves, introduce them to their other books.

Encourage participation.
Allow your children to ask questions or tell you related stories. Replace words in the story with silly rhyming words. Ask your child questions what they think will happen next or how the characters are feeling.

Involve others.
The more people who read to your children, the greater their comprehension will be. Set out books when the babysitter comes over. Have grandparents over to read or if they are far away, have them read over Skype or record a book. Have older siblings read to their younger siblings. Make sure Dad is involved as well. Did you know that only 15% of dads read to their children on a regular basis?

Book Baskets.
Keep baskets of books in the kitchen, bathroom, bedrooms- everywhere! Baskets allow young children who can’t read book titles to find and put away their favorite books more easily which means less books on your floor!

Keep it new and fun.
Encourage your child to pick new books. Try having them pick one book and you pick the other. Ask them to “read” their favorite book to you or describe the pictures.

Avoid taking away reading time with you as a consequence.
This time together is so important and precious. Instead, try encouraging a faster get ready routine with a bonus book or chapter reward.

Establish daily reading time.
Don’t try to compete with T.V., video games, the ipad etc. If you asked your child whether they want ice cream or broccoli, what would they chose? Having mandatory reading time may not be greeted with cheers but it also won’t make your child dislike reading.

Most importantly, don’t stop reading to your children even after they can read themselves!

Why are stories and reading aloud so important? Having to learn the ABCs first, before hearing enough stories, and before playing with words, puts the cart before the horse, and it makes learning to read an unpleasant chore. It’s like having to learn all the parts of a camera before being allowed to take a picture! Experts say that a child should hear at least 1,000 words before they are ready to start learning to read. If you are invested in helping your child learn to read successfully, remember this order: Stories, Words and then Letters! Nursery Rhymes are also a great way to promote literacy. In fact, experts in literacy and child development have discovered that if children know eight nursery rhymes by heart by the time they are four years old, are the best readers by eight.

Whether children make the transition to reading on their own smoothly or encounter difficulties, learning to read has challenging and frustrating moments for most children. When these moments happen, it is important to acknowledge your child’s feelings. Maybe even share a time you became frustrated when learning something new. Books with a dual reading feature where the child reads a simple line and you read more complex text can be a great way to work to keep your child engaged in reading. Choosing books that are the right level is extremely important. You can use the Five Finger Test. If there are more than five words on a page that your child does not know, then you will want to select a different book. Bringing back books from when they were younger will build confidence. It is okay if they have the book memorized as long as they can point to the words they are saying.
As children begin to read on their own, parents have a tendency to stop reading aloud with their children. Unfortunately, when reading is only for homework and school and no longer a piece of spending time with you, children are at risk for a long-term dislike of reading. One of the greatest accomplishments of Harry Potter was that it led to thousands of parents and children reading together year after year. Finding your family’s “Harry Potter” series will strengthen your relationship with your kids and promote a life-long love of reading for your children.

Another trap I see parents fall into is labeling their children as readers and non-readers. Most labels, positive or negative, can be detrimental to children and this one can have significant long-term effects. The child who is labeled as non or reluctant reader is in danger of internalizing this label. Instead try saying something like “we are struggling with finding books that my son/daughter enjoys.” Then work with your child to find books that are fun, engaging and match his or her interests. Reassure your child that everyone reads at a different level and that you are there to help.

If you suspect that your child may have a learning disability, speak to his or her teacher about your concerns. Make sure that your child has annual eye exams or take them immediately to see someone if you suspect a change in their vision. Most reading issues can be addressed particularly when addressed early on but undetected or ignored can have significant consequences on a child’s confidence in their ability. 

Reading with our children has more than just academic benefits. It helps them socially as well. Books are a great way to talk with kids about emotions and give them the vocabulary they need to identify and express their feelings. Children who can put words to their emotions are better able to tolerate frustration, have fewer fights, have less destructive behavior, are less lonely and are more focused. 

Fairy Tales are one avenue for exploring different emotions. When children listen to often horrifying fairy tales, they will become silent, fascinated, upset, appalled, aghast, and they may even cry. But if they feel safe with us while the story is being read–and indeed this is essential–they will want to relive the drama over and over. In frightening stories, it’s someone else’s drama, which is why frightening stories are so appealing. But the child is rescued by the ending, when the good live happily ever after, and the bad come to a well-deserved end.

Some adults are squeamish about this high level of emotion, but child psychologists say the whole point is to allow us (a) to experience troubled realities that are different from our own, (b) to empathize, and(c) to understand cause and effect, d) witness characters being courageous even against the odds.

If we sanitize everything children read, how much more shocking and confusing will the real world be when they finally have to face it? Additionally, one of the things I love best about fairy tales is how many versions there are making it a great way to introduce new books of increasing difficulty to a child who enjoys the same story over and over.

Usborne Books & More is an award winning publishing company with the following mission:
The future of our world depends on the education of our children. We deliver educational excellence one book at a time. We provide economic opportunity while fostering strong family values. We touch the lives of children for a lifetime.  As an Usborne Books & More Educational Consultant I have the privilege and opportunity to share amazing books with families and educators through home shows, book fairs and booths.  Please let me know if you want assistance matching your child’s interests with a selection from our incredible inventory of books. I would love to hear about your reading challenges and successes. Just like with companies such as Pampered Chef or Thirty-One, Usborne consultants an offer generous opportunities for free books through home shows. I particularly love talking with Moms Groups about literacy and parent engagement. And, if you think that promoting literacy through Usborne Books & More sounds like a fun career, contact me with any questions you might have.

Gail Sawchuk is a mother of three and five year old sons, living in Broomfield, Colorado. She is the former Director of Parenting Place in Boulder, has a Masters Degree in Social Work and has spent more than twenty years working with children and families in a variety of settings including day care centers and schools. As an Usborne Books & More Educational Consultant she is available for Educational Home Shows, Book Fairs and assistance with online book orders. 
Contact Information:
720-937-8569

Main Resource for this article: The Read-Aloud Handbook by Jim Trelease and other amazing Usborne Books & More Consultants!

Thursday, June 27, 2013

Traveling with Kids Tips

Traveling with Kids Tips

All you have to do is Google "Traveling with Kids" and you will find an endless supply of articles, tips and stories to arm you and your family.  Spend a little time looking on these and focus on your family's trouble spots- ie. packing, entertainment, fears etc. I just wanted to offer a few bits of advice about travel mindset:

  • Set realistic expectations
Traveling with children is usually not fun, it is a means to get from one place to another. If you all make it there safe and sound, consider that an accomplishment. If you make it there without a blowout diaper on the plane, puke down your shirt and your son's favorite stuffy left on the plane in North Carolina (happened to us!) then consider yourself lucky!
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  • Your kids will accept what you bring
I have a particularly hard time with this one. As I write this, I am packing for a road trip and have eight snack choices packed and ready to go. Particularly on a plane trip, where space is limited, you don't need to go overboard. Bring enough snacks to last but don't be over concerned with variety. I also tend to pack too many activities when my boys are perfectly happy making puppets out of the puke bags.

  • Let them be when they are happy
This one is kind of tied to the one above. Because I have over packed, I feel the need to go through all the snacks and activities I have brought.  I am constantly offering the boys new things, even when they are already totally engaged or happy staring out the window. Don't interrupt the peace!

  • Prep your kids
We have a traveling motto in our family- "Cooperation!" We stress how important it is that we work together. When we are at particularly tricky parts, like getting through security, we let the boys know that this is a really important time for "Cooperation!" The when we make it through without any hitches we celebrate with a family cheer. Transitions are always hard for kids and traveling has so many of them. Give them a basic overview of the trip and then warnings about what will be happening next as you go along. Try to remember to check in with your kids and see how they are feeling throughout the trip.

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  • Appreciate your time together
This one is also hard for me. In the craziness of getting somewhere, settling in, packing and unpacking it is easy to forget to enjoy. Take enough photos to remember your time but don't forget to get in front of the camera and be in the moment!

Wishing you and your family Bodily Fluid free travels this summer! 

P.S. Usborne has some great activity cards, books and sticker books that don't take up a lot of room! Click here for a few examples or to order:  Usborne Website. Let me know if you need any recommendations!

Summer Bucket List


SUMMER BUCKET LIST

In preparation for this month's newsletter I went to Pinterest to look for some fun summer ideas and like always Pinterest had an overwhelming amount of amazing ideas. The one I like the best was creating a Summer Bucket List!  My brother, whose only child is now in college, for the first time in a LONG time, has the entire summer off. Recently he called me stressed out because he wasn't getting as much fun and relaxing things done as he had hoped!  These days with the constant hustle bustle and dozens of distractions, it is not easy to get into summer or vacation mode.  Whether you have the whole summer off and are stressed about how to entertain your children or wish you had more time to relax, the summer should offer planned and spontaneous opportunities to unwind, play and enjoy your family. Creating a Bucket List might be just the thing you need!

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- Working together as a family to create a list of summer activities means that everyone has input;
- Having a list handy will help you quickly find something to do during those "I'm BORED!" moments;
- Checking off things on your Bucket List gives us a sense of accomplishment so we don't feel so guilty about all the fun we're having;
- Including simple outdoor activities like nature scavenger hunts and ice cream on the front porch, helps ensure that you are focused on enjoying time together and
- When that Bucket List does not get completed you have activities to carry over to the Fall or next summer.

How Cute!!! An actual bucket for your summer activities! From A Mom With a Lesson Plan


 Don't forget to include some adult activities that you don't want to miss out on this summer!

And now to Pinterest for some more  inspiration on how to design your Bucket List and what to include:

http://pinterest.com/beingthefunmama/summer-lists/

How to Form a Moms Group- Guest Blog by Melissa Tarr


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When my oldest child was about 6 months old, I suddenly became aware that most of my friends were childless! I was the first in my circle of friends to have children and realized a growing need to find others who were new parents and experiencing similar things to what I was. I was looking for other mom friends to compare notes with about pediatricians, early childhood milestones, and just to be sleep-deprived with. (Having an accepting group of friends who didn't bat an eyelash when you occasionally showed up with spit-up stains and unwashed hair proved to be priceless!)

Thus I began looking for a "Moms Group" to join. As I didn't have any mom friends at the time, I started my search online. I looked for Moms groups in my area through Google searches and online meet-up sites. Although I attended meet-ups with a few different groups I found through my searches online, I quickly realized the existing groups in my area just didn't fit with what I was looking for. My two biggest problems were that the children in the groups age-ranges were too widespread and the geographical locations of the meet-ups were too far apart. I wanted to find a group of Moms that was close to me and had children with similar ages. So, I started a new one. 

I began by creating a Yahoo group with a detailed description focused on Moms with children whose birthdays were within a year of my child's and whose geographical location included the town I lived in and a few other communities close by. Within a short time of starting the group, a few local moms joined and then spread mainly by word-of-mouth.  The group quickly expanded to more than twenty members. This number meant that the group was big enough that most events would have good attendance but not so large that you did not feel connected to most of the group.
Once up and running, I recruited help from other moms in the group to put events on the calendar, share community events, and give input. Everyone has something to bring to the table, and keeping it a group effort proved successful for our Moms group and kept things more informative and interesting.


http://i1.squidoocdn.com/resize/squidoo_images/250/draft_lens11500381module151792876photo_1311598763Rocket-Moms-Trophy.jpgActivities were both planned ahead of time and added last minute, as impromptu play-dates came up. They were hosted at public places (i.e. parks, playgrounds, library) as well as at the homes of group members. When the kids were smaller more regular events seemed popular, including regular park play-dates, coffee meet-ups, and library story times that were put on the calendar monthly. Some of the more popular monthly events often revolved around holidays and included holiday cookie exchanges, costume parties, Easter egg hunts, visits to the pumpkin patch, berry farms, etc. 

As our kids got older, our schedules got crazier, and siblings were added into the mix, the events seemed to get smaller, more personal, and less planned. For instance, if someone was planning to visit the zoo the next day, they might send a note to the group inviting anyone who was free to join them. Families with more in common, similar schedules, and/or kids the same ages tended to attend more last minute, smaller gatherings together and friendships grew.

http://cdn.sheknows.com/articles/2012/06/sarah_parenting/playground-mom-child.jpgAs the years have passed, the group has evolved greatly. It began with large meet-ups and an eclectic mix of people and personalities. Over time, friendships have blossomed and people have drawn together into the comfort of smaller groups within the umbrella of the original moms group. Though regular play-dates are a thing of the past, the group now serves as more of an on-going parenting resource...to gather opinions and share resources with one another. We share information about community events, babysitters, and all things parenting related in addition to getting together to blow off steam at Moms only events.


Tips for starting a Mom's group:
- Identify key things you want from the group (i.e. location, ages, common interests, etc.)
- Utilize free resources such as Yahoo Groups, Google, Facebook etc...to set up a website and keep in touch with members, organize play dates, share information, etc.
- Spread the word! Mention the group to Moms at the Library's story times, parks, and the grocery store. 
- Share the load. Though the group may begin with one or a few individuals, be sure to find a way to include and get input from everyone. The group will be richer for it!
- Include a variety of activities that are recurring as well as impromptu. This will help busy moms with varied schedules find something they can fit in.
This network of ladies and their awesome children have been an invaluable influence in my family's lives and I am so thankful for their friendship and support...nearly 5 years later! I hope that you will be able to create a similar community of support for yourself.

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Turning "I CAN"T do it!" into "LOOK what I did!"

All of us experience occasional frustration with new or challenging tasks. Setting up a website, blog, e-newsletter, Facebook page etc. the last few months has had its fair share of frustrations. There have been times when I want to throw my laptop across the room or just have myself a good cry. Many times, I build up the tasks in my head to be so awful that I am already frustrated before I even start.Why then should I be surprised when my boys express the same kind of frustration and avoidance tactics?

Yesterday the boys wanted to do backwards somersaults. Their initial attempts ended up with them crashing into walls or just toppling over on their sides. When I explained that I could teach them how to do it, you would have thought I had asked them to eat a plate of mushrooms and onions. They wanted nothing to do with having to sit through my demonstrations or having to practice the steps that would eventually lead to a real backwards somersault. I persevered though and eventually they sat still long enough to watch me muster through the fundamentals of the backwards somersault (thankfully without any personal injuries). They put their hand up by their ears and practiced rolling backwards until they gained the momentum to hurl themselves over. We cheered wildly at their accomplished feats and their pride was written all over their smiling faces.

Although I felt a little crazy at the time, demanding that they follow through on learning such a trivial act, I had a feeling that there were some bigger issues at play. I wanted to help the boys understand how good it feels when you don't give up and you learn something new. I wanted them to overcome their frustrations. I wanted them to know that even fun activities sometimes take a little work and practice.

The same day my older son became very agitated while putting together a new Lego set. I suggested that he take a little break and come back to it. Meanwhile, I would try to work on it. The Ninjago Great Devourer was NOT easy to put together. The snake tail was made of all these separate pieces and when you would try to put them together... SMASH! They all fell apart and you had to start over, again and then again. "Argh! I am so frustrated." I said. My son looked at me. Uh oh, how was I going to handle this teaching moment when what I wanted to do was throw the pieces across the room. "I think I will take a little break," I said. "Wow, that is not easy, is it? Why don't have snack and come back to it?" When we returned a bit later, both in a better space, we worked together and slowly and carefully put that snake together and it is pretty cool.

So, later when I introduced the boys to my favorite X-box game- Fusion Frenzy, I felt armed with ideas about how to help them overcome their frustrations. The game is made up of all these mini competitions that they should have loved like smashing bugs and bumping each other's bumper boats of the edge of platform. They were not feats you would necessarily be good at the first time though, they took practice. At first they just wanted to keep switching games thinking the next one would be easier. Once they realized they were all hard, they wanted to quit. I found a game I thought would be fairly easy to get better at in a short period of time and made them play it again and again and again. Yes, had to make them play a video game! I cheered them on and gave instructions as they played. I celebrated with high fives and excited announcements of how their scores were going up. In the end, we all had fun and felt good about our accomplishments. For me, not getting frustrated with their frustrations was a feat.

Often times we confuse frustration with avoidance or defiance. Sometimes the feelings our kids have when they are frustrated are so intense that they scream, throw things, cry, hurt their little brother etc. We mistakenly think that our child is able to do what we have asked them to without help, guidance or encouragement. Or we let them give up on a task, unintentionally teaching that they are not capable. Instead, next time your child becomes frustrated with a task, be it homework, learning to ride a bike or catch a ball, put together a Lego set etc., try out some of these suggestions:
- Help your child identify their feelings. "You seem really frustrated with this task."
- Ask your child if they want to take a break and to come back later then they are feeling calmer.
- Talk about how it felt when you were frustrated with a task and then how good it felt to work at it and get  better or accomplish it.
-Remind your child of a time when they overcame their frustrations and mastered a new task. 
-When the opportunity arises, show that you too get frustrated and role model how to overcome those feelings.
- Break a big task into smaller, achievable tasks. 
- Encourage their efforts with supportive words and cheer them along.
- Focus on the skills they demonstrate over the results such as sticking with it, working hard, calming themselves down etc. 
- Make a big deal when they accomplish the task that seemed insurmountable.
- Break the unhelpful mood with humor or a fun activity and then go back to the task. 

Try not to:
- Make them push through without acknowledging that they are struggling or offering some help or redirection.
- Do it for them.
- Let them give up. (Unless it truly is a task that is above their developmental capacity. Then it is better to explain that they are not old enough yet, but the time will come when they can try again.)
-Make comparisons to siblings or other kids who find the task easy.

Next time I need to work on my website, maybe I will ask the boys to be my cheer-leading team.